Letting go is hard, it I can feel like we are giving up… it really can, but that is most definitely not always the case. It’s not like you get confronted with something difficult, and you just toss your hands up and accept and walk away, this is obviously something deeper that I am speaking of.
I’m speaking to the women who have lived a prisoner to their hair loss, the loss holding them a hostage within their own lives, and finding no way forward year after year, and everyday just seems like ground hog day, or worse, because in time women often decline within this process as they see no way to reclaim themselves, they lose themselves, and forget who they once were.
And THAT is painful, it is hard to look at yourself day after day and feel powerless, but we get choices in this, I never really felt there were any, because all the choices looked like crappy choices, but there were choices and options just the same, and while no one thing can work for every woman, I think we each have the ability to find a way through, craft a life WITH hair loss that works for us, one where don’t feel we have to hide, or feel shame, shame for something we did nothing to have shame for.
Letting go was instrumental at several main points of my hair loss life, once in 2012 when I started wearing wigs (my hair loss began at 21 in 1999), another while along the wig journey or sharing my wig life and hair loss life, not just online but with pretty much everyone and anyone and again in 2023 when I shaved my head after getting hit with a second type of hair loss in 2022.
Shaving my head is not my ideal, I know people see follicles and think, you can grow it out just fine, that’s not how this works and while many with hair loss do know this, many still do not. Shaving helps it to look even and like “more” even though there’s literally nothing there, still looks like more. An illusion. Wearing wigs propelled me to move forward when I was ready, and shaving my head was instrumental in insuring that hair loss did not claim any more years of my life.
Choices. They exist. We just don’t always see them, but they exist around us in different ways. They are there, and we do have power in this.
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