So the great thing about having a supportive man in your life is being able to joke about things that aren’t really funny. Yesterday my fiance was saying something from afar that nagged me (completely unrelated to hair), I forgot what, but I replied to him “Hey, be nice to me, I’m going bald!” As the words left my mouth I started to laugh and so did he once he could hear I was only joking.
My mind found a joke in there somewhere to pick myself up because I was feeling pretty down yesterday after the shower gauntlet of shampoo, rinse and comb. Oddly enough, I picked up a T-shirt to put on that I think was mailed to be a few weeks ago when I bought something on the internet ( it was a free gift) and the back of it said:
Determination
\di-tur-muh–ney-shuh n\
a: a fixed purpose,
the power and will to persist,
resolve, to have the drive,
to have the grit, to go the distance,
to be hell-bent on reaching a goal
and getting it done no matter what
After I read that my spirit lifted up a little and I forced myself back into my “strong mindset,” and said to myself “I am determined.” Determined to not let my hair loss eat me alive, to beat this, maybe not with treatment because that is beyond my control, but with my mind, with my heart and learning to love myself and not care so much about what other people think.
Anyways, I thought it would make funny bumper sticker “Be Nice To Me, I’m Going Bald.” a little humor never hurts.
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I wonder where we can get more of those shirts, post the website on it and wear them! I would love to promote this website that way. I especially love that bumper sticker. Do you mind if I borrow that? I hope I never have to, but I absolutely love it!
By the way, I met someone online-so far so good! I told him about the website. I most certainly am in NO WAY comfortable to take it off yet….I hope he never has to see it; i’m trying to prolong it as much as possible.
I think its funny that you forgot why he nagged you, I think that shows how much you 2 care for each other, that the little things don’t matter.
Hi Julie –
Everytime I read the line I wrote “Be Nice to me I’m going bald!” I still giggle a little. Its just so silly. You are welcome to borrow that, if I was a more comfortable with myself I would have those printed and slap it on the back of my car. 🙂
I’m so happy for you that you’ve met someone. So you’ve told him about your hair loss, how did he respond? obviously it must have been a good response since you said that its going good so far. Keep us updated!
I think the sticker slogan makes perfect sense, it helps people realize that they need to redirect their anger or other emotions. Its really cute and I’m borrowing it.
He and I met online and he sent me messages regularly…I overlooked them and responded to those that kept inquiring about me. Once I revealed my wig secret, they wigged out and stopped contact with me. Some never returned my emails, some just said it wasn’t an issue but stopped messaging altogether. I gave him a shot and now we’re getting along famously. My fears of intimacy are starting to kick in: its hard to kiss without having the stupid wig in my face or mouth; I get nervous that once he puts his hands around my head, he’ll knock it off! I’m worried he’ll think my head looks disgusting and freak out! I’ve already rejected so many ideas in my head: like working out together (we work out at the same gym), going swimming or relaxing in the hot tub after a work out. (I brought it up to see what he’d say, but don’t know if I could fake my confidence enough to do it, simply not that brave!)
He doesn’t tell me his feelings or mentions my situation and it’s quite frustrating. I really want to know. I guess i’m blowing things out of proportion as he said to me, “apparently, I really like you too!” He’s flawless, he’s about an inch shorter than me and i’ve since purchased 2 new pairs of flats! (taking a break from the achy heels) We had a talk and agreed that no matter what our goals in life, what flaws we have…if we really like each other, none of those things should matter. Deep down, I just want some reassurance. He’s an educator and a coach, which takes up a lot of his time. I’m more than willing to take the good with the bad, whereas most men i’ve met, just want the good…
As for me, I feel like shaving my head! I mentioned in a previous response to Elle’s story that I really want to know if he’s so accepting of my situation, and the only way for me to find out is if I shave my head. I don’t feel attractive without hair. I’m at a point where I want to take the plunge but also want to see if Spironolactone and the laser comb will help save my strands.
I will keep you all posted…i pray for people that cannot accept me, I hope they never have to endure the kind of pain and suffering I went through.
Hahaha, I love it! Well done!
Elle.
I gives me such a chuckle to sit here and read that sign! It is really hilarious and sad at the same time!!!!!!!!!!! Never in my time on earth would I have thought this would be something I would be concerned with! Wrinkles and brown spots yet but hair loss absolutely NOT! I miss the days I treated my hair like a lawn mower treats grass!!!!!! There was so much of it and so strong and dense!