Hi, I was happy to stumble across your site. I’ve been living with hair loss since I was 16 and have finally begun steps to healthfully and happily “deal” with it.
My mother, father and younger sister are all faced with baldness. It’s most definitely genetic for me. Through out high school I dealt with the rude remarks from other kids and never felt entirely pretty. I started on rogaine when I was 16 and saw very little response, finally stopping it at 18.
I then began wearing my hair pulled back in a pony tail, but as my hair continued to thin I had to cover my hair with an additional folded scarf or bandana to cover my hair on the top of my scalp where it was thinning the most. I was extremely self conscious and had trouble being in public with out my hair strategically covered. When I turned 25, just this last March, I decided that I needed a change and bought my first wig because I wanted to wear my hair down. I’m not trying to fool anyone, and there’s still a lot to get used, but it seems natural enough that I can pass as a woman with hair. It’s just hard considering I don’t know any other 25 year old women who wear wigs. I just needed to take control and I felt I deserved for once, as a young woman, to feel pretty and feminine.
No swimming, no wind in my hair, no warmth of the sun on my head and face.
Those are things I really miss and hope to one day gain the self confidence
to enjoy again. I’m contemplating shaving my head completely and hope to one
day feel confident enough to do that.
I look forward to reading your’s and others’ stories and hope to find strength in the knowledge that there are other young women out there dealing with the same issues.
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Dear Larissa,
Thank you so much for writing and sharing your story with everyone. You wrote that you hope to find strength in reading other women’s stories, I found strength in reading yours. I admire women who find the courage in themselves to move forward and take whatever steps necessary to make them feel good, like buying a wig, adding hair or shaving their head. I haven’t reached that point myself, but I feel like I’m getting closer…Baby steps.
Like you, I also didn’t have any success with Rogaine. Is your family supportive? Are you able to talk to them about your hair loss. It is hard for my family to truly understand my hair loss no matter how hard they may try because most of them have all their hair. It seems I was the only one left without a chair when the music stopped… or dare I say, left without my hair 🙂 But seriously, it’s hard and I hate feeling uncomfortable around my own family. My mother’s hair started to thin when she went through menopause, but she still has more hair than me, and while it bothers her she doesn’t understand what it is like to be to start losing your hair at 21 and devastation it causes.
For myself, suffering with hair loss has taken so much from me and left me feeling alone. Being able to communicate with other women and read their stories has helped me tremendously. I want more than anything to be able to put a period on this part of my life and move on and I want to help other women to be able to do the same. Part of that healing is reading the hair loss stories of other women, knowing we are not alone in this. So thank you again Larissa for sharing your story with us.
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Larissa,
I am 19 and lost my hair very young as well. I think it is very brave of you to make the decision to wear a wig! In fact sometimes it seems it takes more strength for someone to get the wig and wear in than not. I do not wear a wig because it makes me uncomfortable and I hope that with or without hair one day you can again enjoy swimming and the warmth of the sun!
Thank you for posting your story. Best wishes.
I must say I am so glad to have found this website. Here is the low down on myself. I started noticing my hair falling out more and more at the age of 14. I thought it was just because my diet was aweful and I was stressed about highschool. But no matter what I did the hair just kept falling out. Then when I was 20 I decided I would go to a hair specialist. He said I had female pattern baldness and that there was really nothing I could do past taking rogaine and other supplements. At this point I have lost way to much hair to not do anything about it. So, I gave in and at the age of 23 decided to get a hair replacement system/mop on my head. I have found that I am much less conscious of it and yet even more so at the same time. I just feel helpless. My hair piece system is 225 dollars a month… for a freakin mop on my head. I too feel much like Larissa and saying “screw this im shaving my head.” I have done the hair piece system for 7 months now and after realizing how much I have spent it’d so be worth just shaving my head. My fear is never finding a guy to accept that part of me. I just hope I get to a point of peace at some point.
Just looking for support,
Sarah
Your statement about not knowing anyone your age wearing a wig caught my attention. I’ll be 24 next month and within the past few weeks my hair has been falling out and I’m left with bald patches. First a silver dollar size on the top, then on the nape of my neck and now thinning around the front. I’m currently in the ponytail/headband phase, but looking towards shaving my head and possibly wearing a wig. Unlike you, my thyroid is to blame for my hairloss. I’m getting married right before my birthday next month and I am super-nervous I’m going to be bald by then. Your post reaches out to me. And I hope my comment reaches out to you. I can’t exactly feel what you are going through, however I am so thankful you don’t have the internal health problems that I have accompanying my hairloss. I look forward to reading more of your posts. And you may have just imspired me to write more for myself and others like me. Thank-you.