Closeup of Mila’s New Color
Hi Everyone!
It’s been QUITE awhile since I’ve made a video, been supa dupa busy these past few months, but things are now settling down and I wanted to do a video (embedded at the end of this post) about my darling Mila’s little makeover aka dye job! I’m fairly new to wig wearing, and as of May of this year, I will have been wearing wigs for one year, so I’m sort of learning along the way about new things, such as the color of the hair lightening up over time.
If you didn’t know, Mila is my Follea Aero-2 wig, born in the color 5030, which is a light brown/blonde color, a perfect match to my bio hair. Over time her color started lightening up and it got to a point where I didn’t think it blended well with my own hair anymore. If I didn’t use my hair it wouldn’t have been as big of an issue, but I do use my own hair with all my wigs, and I definitely need a color that blends.
Enter… Hair Color
I decided to take my misbehaving girl to Vicka at Follea in Beverly Hills, and show her how naughty she’s been 😉 I explained to Vicka that I wanted the color to match my bio hair as much as possible, obviously within reason, we are talking about hair color here, not hair cloning! I’m fairly flexible in the color of my wig, as long as it’s a good blend and goes well with my skin tone, if it’s too dark I look like I should be holding out a bag and saying “Trick or Treat!”
So I bid Mila adieu, and then worried endlessly that she might be too dark when I picked her up or not dark enough. What can I say, I’m an obsessive worrier and not just with hair, with everything. I waited patiently (kind of) and then got the call that her transformation was now complete. Good news right? Well…maybe if you’re normal. I worried all along the drive back to Follea, and up the stairs and in the hallway, and while I knocked on the door… and and and, the door opened…. Vicka greeted me and behind her I could see my darling Mila sitting so pretty and new and just looking so perfect and amazing! I have to give some mad props (do people use that saying anymore LOL) to Vicka because she did an amazing job with my girl. I’m so happy with how she came out, so much so that I I’ve worn her everyday since I got her back. All the other girls watch her leave the bathroom each day and think, “who died and made her queen” 😉
Close up of her new yummy hair color
Wearing hair is a journey all onto itself, it takes time to adjust to wearing it and learning all the ins and outs that go along with it. There will be bumps, every journey seems to have them, but they can be worked through and I definitely think you have to be patient with yourself and have a willingness to be a bit flexible. Good supplemental hair can be a life saver, but it will never be our own hair and we have to understand and embrace that as much as possible. I do know that is easier said than done, but expecting supplemental hair to be the exact same thing as our own bio hair is only setting yourself up for disappointment. At the end of the day, no matter how fab my hair looked at work, driving around town, the grocery store etc., it’s removable! It’s not mine, well it’s mine in the possession sense, but you know what I mean. My girl goes on her styrofoam head and my own crappy hair has it’s time to let loose and watch TV. I accept that this is my reality, I’m finally okay with it. Acceptance and flexibility, those are the tools I use to make my hair wearing experience amazing.
XOXO
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Mila is gorgeous! I know you’re relieved!
Love what you wrote:
Acceptance and flexibility, those are the tools I use to make my hair wearing experience amazing.
I so need to keep that in mind as I am moving into wearing soon!
Your Mila hair looks awesome!!
In fact,YOU are awesome!!
Do not worry so much about your hair!!
You are doing a great job,greater than you may think!!!!
You and Mila look GORGEOUS!!!
Glad you’re back! You look gorgeous…hair or hat. I had my wigs colored also as it they were too light originally. They were almost blond and I am brunette. I don’t know why they came out so light but it was a custom order so no going back but she offered to color them. They turned out nice. Your wig is a beautiful color and so happy for you that all worked out. Its good for others to know that human hair wigs can be colored (only darkened I’ve been told) to match bio hair or even skin tone. All the best. 🙂
I thought your latest ‘lady’ was an addition to your collection. She looks great and I love the darker color on you too – and if it matches your bio more and makes you happy even better. If only all of us lived so close to Follea (and could affort it).
Thanks for sharing!!!
Thank you for this update. Y, can you tell us if the dying process affected the wig cap? I ask, because I had some staining on my topper in spots (not too bad) when I had the roots darkened. I was just curious if your experience with Mila was the same or if perhaps Follea does something differently?
This just was not something I had prepared myself for, in case any of the girls consider doing this to their own girls.
Oh my goodness…. The last part of your blog made me tear up…. Tis so true – we MUST accept what IS and not keep WISHING for what WAS… I’m not sure what’s going on, but I’m having a hard time with that this week! I guess it’s seeing my hair ALL over the darn place (more than usual). I think my higher strength prescription is finally kicking in and kicking my butt… A couple of days ago I was going to have a glass of wine – went in the fridge, grabbed the wine bottle and VOILA – a strand of MY hair was stuck to the bottom… I just looked at it and said really??? Oh well, I’m hoping there’s a good-looking wig in my future just waiting for me…. God Bless You, Y and all you do for all of us…. Annette xo
@Avery – Thank you! and yes I am SOOO relieved. It’s totally true, we do really need to have some level of acceptance and flexibility when wearing hair.. that way we can be successful with our journey and aren’t disappointed or resentful of it. With hair, I think we will hate anything we resent, and if we resent wearing hair in the first place, then it may never work out.
@Marina – Thank you so much!
@Ciella – Thank you!
@B – You’re so sweet, thank you! That’s so nutty that you ordered a brunette wig and got a blond one, but I’m glad that thanks to the wonder of hair color you were able to get something that works for you. Human hair wigs can be darkened and they can also be lightened, but I think you have to be certain you are going to a professional who is familiar with coloring wigs and knows the proper way to do them, otherwise they could potentially ruin the hair – which would be tragic and traumatic.
@Halias – Yup, my latest lady is just a revamp of my old lady! 🙂 LOL
@HW – There are a little bit of darkened spots not he cap. It’s my lace wig, it’s not really an issue for me, it didn’t harm the look or anything, but I did ask how this would work on the wigs I have that have the skin top part because that would be very noticeable and messed up if the top of the skin top part got dark spots on it. I was told it can be done with no marking or staining, and just takes being very careful not to get any color on it.
@Annette – Seeing the hair fall does make things harder… FOR SURE. It’s a big reason why I just cut as much of my hair off as I could without hurting my ability to still pull out my hair line in front of my wigs. I’ll probably keep cutting away until I have just the smallest exact about I need to look quasi normal without my wigs, walking around the house, and the amount I need for optimal hair wearing. I know that feeling of finding hair in the most crazy places, like in between my toes, attached to a box of corn flakes, or the best was finding my cat eating a piece of it off the floor. If I wore bangs, I would shave my entire head and be totally done with it, but I am not at the point I want to do that… yet, but I might in the future. I haven’t worn bangs since I was in the 6th grade, but they may be making a comeback in my life at some point 🙂
XOXO
oh, YAY! She looks gorgeous! the color looks just amazing. I’m going to get my wig colored too and I cannot wait! Seems like adjusting the color is necessary sometimes as they do lighten up a bit. And getting some lowlights and maybe even some rooting to break up what is now pretty damn blonde is going to make her look even more fabulous!
I’m happy for you and for Mila! 🙂
@Bonnie – Thank You!! Interestingly enough my wig is actually softer after the hair coloring, she was seriously like a new wig again, which is so weird because I assumed coloring would make it drier, but it didn’t. Maybe it depends on how the color is applied.
I look forward to seeing your wig after she has her maintenance appointment!
XOXO
that is so great that it actually IMPROVED the texture! I am only getting partial color but I too look forward to seeing my wig after her appointment. 😉
You and Mila look AMAZING!! Watching the transformation you’ve made in the last year has been truly inspirational. Much love to you and your girls!
Your “girl” looks amazing. The color is beautiful. I purchased my first Follea February 1st after wearing synthetic hair for 4 years.
After reading your posts, I decided to let go of trying. Trying to grow back my bio hair. I was using propecia, aldactone, nioxin, rogaine and latisse drops. All in hopes of a few extra strands or at least not to lose what I had, which is not much. Nothing was doing the job. I still had the same thin, balding head of hair that I would never step foot outside of my house with. I made the decision to let 2013 be the year that I was going to let go of obsessing over my hair and constantly crying and being sad and angry every time I thought about it. After all, we are all more than just hair. I am a good mother, wife, friend and person. So I have crappy hair, it is what it is. Do I have days that I still cry and wish I could make this all stop, you bet, but my hair is never going to grow back, I know that for sure. Istopped taking all of these medications and got my gorgeous Follea hair.
I have never felt so confident and “normal” since wearing my Follea. Now my only problem is dealing with people constatly complimenting me and asking who does my hair. To be honest, I hate it because I feel like I am a “Fraud” and I am being complimented on something that is not really mine. But I guess its better than always having people stare at my scalp and ask if I was sick. My new hair has improved my self confidence beyond words. I want to thank you for introducing this solution to me and for all of the hope you have given to me. In addition, thank you to the wonderful women who post on this site and make me realize that I am not alone in this horrible hair loss journey.
You can dye a wig?? This is all new to me. No clue about wigs, caps or any of this. But this website is THE best place to start I’m guessing! Thank you so much!
Thanks so much for this posting! The color is fabulous. I’ve been feeling like my Follea Lifestyle is lightening up pretty rapidly so I am grateful to see a successful color story. The wig is just getting to red and brassy for me. And it’s not lightening up evenly. Did this happen to you?
Although I do get compliments on the color–people ask me if it’s natural. Um, no. 🙂
Linda–I totally feel you. As soon as I bought my Follea, I gave the heave-ho to the spironolactone and the Nioxin shampoo. Goodbye! I’m not going to fight this losing battle anymore. I’ll save my money for pretty hair that I’ve always wanted. Even if I could preserve every last hair on my head five years ago–that would still not be good enough.
As always, this website has given me my life back. Thanks so much!
@Bonnie – Yay for color! 🙂
@Angie T – Thank you so much!
@Linda – Wow, congrats on your major breakthrough and realization that life is so much more than our hair! That is so awesome! And of course congrats on your Follea hair baby purchase! Your “problem” is what I like to call a “High class problem” LOL too many hair compliments? Yes please. I know that fraud feeling, but we shouldn’t feel that way it IS our hair, I have the receipt to prove it. What wig? 😉 I do share about my wig wearing on a case by case basis and when it’s feels right and I feel comfortable with it, and it has always been quite liberating to do so. But I don’t do it all the time. Congats again!
@Lynda – Yep you can dye wigs, I guess the outcome will depend on the the quality of hair at the start and the skill of the person doing the coloring. 🙂
@Katsa – Thank you! I didn’t feel that my hair lightened up unevenly, it was more of an all over thing. Mila needed the total overall color, but I think on my lifestyles what I may end up doing is low lights to bring some warmth to it. People dye their hair all sorts of colors and it’s highly doubtful that anyone past the age of 25 is sporting their own color, yes I know that some women do, but most color their hair for whatever reason. I was coloring my hair fire engine red at 18 and had I never lost my hair I’m certain I probably would have done highlights or whatever just like everyone else. My natural color? No. My hair ? Why yes of course, wanna see the receipt? What salon do I go to for my hair? Oh, some place in Beverly Hills. LOL
Love to All!
XOXO
Hi, I just watched your video and it is so nice to find that other women suffer from thinning hair as I do. I have been fighting the battle for 7.5 years. I can relate to everything I have read so far…that in and of itself makes me feel better. Sometimes I feel so alone in this battle. My husband is so supportive, for which I am thankful, but there are still lots and lots of tears and anguish. I plan to follow this site and hope to learn all I can about wearing wigs. I truly cannot imagine doing that…I worry what will I do at night, or if I am at someone else’s house overnight and on and on and on. I pray this will be the place to help me come to some sort of peace about it and get on with my life! I miss so much because I worry someone will see how I am slowly balding! Life is too short to let it pass me by, because of my hair. I’m so tired of using Joan Rivers fill in powder, it would be so freeing to be able to trash it! I hope I can learn the ropes of wearing a wig and it feeling natural and looking natural. I’ve never owned one, no nothing about what is available, etc., so I have a lot to learn. I don’t even know what Follea is, other than I think you get wigs there? lol I hope they can still help you if you live where there is no Follea shop. Thank you for the video, I think you look beautiful… and it made me smile:)
Have been researching European Human Hear wigs due to loss of 80% of my hair from chemotherapy. I was leaning toward the Freeda line and getting one of their discontinued wigs, but thought I’d ask your thoughts on Freeda wigs. The Follea wig in your video is gorgeous. Assuming Follea is the best out there but very expensive. Just wondering how the Freeda compares.
Thanks
What a wonderful source! I have purchased my first wig, after years of extensions. I am also noticing some hair lightening, after just three months of wear. (I only have one wig). I read also that you, like myself may have over washed your first wig. I made the same mistake and washed it once a week in the first month. It has lost some luster. Could you recover your wig, or did you just move on to the next wig? How long do you wigs typically last for you?
I know you are bombarded with questions! I feel crazy to even ask!
Thank you,
Jaclyn
Beautiful! I am ordering the same wig/color.. do you know what salon color she used to darken? I prefer ash/neutral, but my lady said that the golden colors look better on wigs; I’m just concerned, because I have more pink undertones & always used an ash color on my bio hair.