So I got a haircut this past Monday that did not turn out the way I wanted at all. My hairstylist whom I’ve been using for years, sort of went on her own path and deviated from what I needed to have done. I keep beating myself up for letting this happen, I should not have trusted that she would do what I needed and I should have paid closer attention. I really have only myself to blame. Lesson learned. Now I’m having to try and figure out how to get by not using my hairline with my wigs, something I’m not familiar with at all since I’ve always used my hairline (ear to ear) when wearing all my girls. *Letting out big BIG sigh* So this is my jacked up hair cut video update.
For some reason in the video at the part line front section it appears dark, it doesn’t appear that way in person, not sure how the lighting in my office was hitting it, but just know that isn’t what it looks like in person, it’s pretty natural. Didn’t want you guys thinking I was wondering around in the world with a dark spot in my front hairline. LOL
This has been a hard week on me because of this, it was rather devastating to have something like this taken from me, something I technically have control over and now feeling like I have to wait months and months for my hairline to get back to a usable length is driving me nuts, absolutely nuts. I could have cared less if she shaved circles into the top or back, I just wanted my hairline kept long. That’s it, my only one real requirement for the cut. I suppose after my hairline grows back I’ll look at this as an “experience” and know that even if all my hair falls out, I’ll still be able to work the wigs. So I guess there is a positive here.. somewhere, somewhere, somewhere in here. Have you found it yet? Don’t mind me, you’ll find me at the bottom of a bottle tonight 🙂
Love & Hugs To All!
XOXO
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Man, your experience had to have been tough! I could feel you swing from despondent to hopeful to frustration to acceptance to up then down and all around! Ultimately,,, you are one strong girl. And I admire you. And your man sounds like a super good guy. You and I are lucky that way.
Group Hug!
Hi Maia – Yes indeed it’s been a rough few days for me TRYING to make peace with this situation. It’s just that I’ve accepted wearing wigs, and figured out how to work my hairline to make me feel TOTALLY comfortable in them. It doesn’t take much hairline at all to integrate it, but now my hairline at the length she cut it is working against me, sprouting out in a weird way if I try to pull some hair out. Not good. I’ll get past it. If I can accept my hair loss, and accept wearing wigs, surely I’ll get through this F’d up hair cut / wig wearing situation. As my grandmother used to say “No hay mal que por bien no venga” which translates to “There is no bad from which good doesn’t come” — Lets hope she’s right! LOL
xoxo
I am in the process of growing my bangs out. They are to my nose. I could not twist them and pin them to the side like you did. I had to take them straight up and back. I think I posted that in my pics yesterday. I actually did it really good today. I just couldn’t make mine look as good as yours. Besides Follea told me that you have more hair than me. Ouch!!!! Maybe play around with differ ways to get that hair out. I only suggest because I am a hair stylist and I have had to grow out many crazy hair cuts. The look you had was great but maybe there is some way to use the front. I grasp the sides are not useable. I am SO sorry!
Sorry about what happened with your haircut. This is very frustrating. People just don’t understand how important it is to have the right cut for any bio hair we have left to blend in. She must have been thinking about something else. I have to go tomorrow for a cut (I wear a clip-in follea topper with bangs). I need her to trim my hair as well as cut in the topper since it has too much weight on the bottom. I’m terrified she will mess it up.
We can’t control our hair loss and it takes a while to get used to wearing our new hair plus we need to tweak the style and then someone who should know better F’s it up!! I really feel for you but you do still look beautiful!
Thank you for all that you do for us! My struggle is so much lighter since I found this website.
I just added today’s picture of me taking it straight back. I hope you can make some thing work 🙂
Hey honey, shit I think you still had eyes behind your shades that looked like you’ve been crying? So, big hug your way.
I know that this is NOT what you wanted, but your lace front looks so totally natural at the hairline, maybe Mila had a chat with your hairstylist to get some “hair-time”! (I was trying to get you to smile there).
Ok, it blows large but YOU are going to file it under the – f$&@ category and move on! You still look gorgeous and completely natural. I understand about the side burn crap – me, shaved head and I’m trying to let it grow a wee bit so the ear area blends.
So, do tell, did you bop her in the nose 😉
This is just another chapter in your journey.
Chin up honey.
Xxoo
I have had that experience with hairdressers who don’t listen or do what they THINK is best for you. Now I am looking for someone for hair replacement and am afraid that to have to deal with the same issues all over again. I’ve dealt with the pain of hair loss for many years, not living my life or wanting to go out in public so I would not have to be in bright lights, wind or see someone stare at my head. I have had comments made to me about my hair loss and have wanted to crawl under a rock and hide. We judge ourselves so harshly be it our weight, skin tone, hair loss, relationship issues, etc. I am tired of hiding and feeling like I am less of a person. When I think about it I realized I think am the one thinking less of myself. I don’t feel that way about someone I see that has a disability or hair loss. I am thankful for all the blessings in life I do have and recently have experience the birth of my first grandchild. It helped me to see however I see myself that my grandchild looks through the eyes of innocence and love and that is how we should look at each other.
I was thinking about this more and I guess it’s not about how we think you look, it’s how you feel. We are all just trying to find a solution that works for us and no matter what anyone else thinks-it’s what we think about how we look. We put so much psychic energy into this and we just want to feel more normal and not think about it it so much so we can do other things in life.
Life is hard enough sometimes!
I think about you all and I am thankful for the support I see here.
Thank you guys for all the support and wonderful comments, it means so much to me.. so much.
@Carey – Your Follea is beautiful, I saw your pic from today, you’ve really got it down with how to work it, it is totally natural and flawless. Maybe I should take some hair vitamins to speed up hair growth, wonder if those work… Grow hair GROWWWWW. Things will look a lot better for me with one inch more growth, at least something workable for my liking. My wigs do work now with my hair now, but i’m a nutty perfectionist, and when things aren’t as I like it drives me bonkers. I’m very certain that for everyone else in the world, no one will notice anything different. My fiancé who is always honest with me (sometimes to a fault) has told me that my wigs look just as good. But I SEE the little hairs and things not flowing how I like. But it will grow, it will grow… 🙂
@Gls – You are sooo correct, most people don’t get how important the right cut is. My super frustration, was I actually put on my WiGrip, pulled out my hairline ear to ear and we clipped that section to be marked as kept longer, not sure where things went awry. When you get your hair cut, be very on top of what is going on in that moment, don’t be passive like me. I can guarantee on my next cut I will be the super nutty client watching over everything like a hawk. Actually, I kid you not, after this experience, I likely will separate my hairline in all future cuts, clip it and tell them not to touch it at all, I’ll cut that part myself… seriously. Go in telling your stylist my story and that you want to be super careful to make sure too much isn’t taken off. I’m so glad you have found support and comfort here, that alone makes my day better!
@Lina – I emailed you already with my nutty situation, but I just want to tell you MUAH MUAH MUAH! slurp, slurp, I’m following doctors orders and drinking wine as prescribed. Oh and I did text my stylist later that night, I couldn’t help myself, I was so bothered — she took forever to respond but when she did she was very apologetic. The other issue I didn’t touch on in this video is that without my wig, my hair is at some weird length that it stands straight up on top (think vanilla ice or marge simpson) and it’s so crazy, I would have preferred the top shorter front LONGER. She got that backwards. She offered to come to my house once a week until it grows out to a better length and blow dry my hair for free, it was very nice of her. I declined her offer, it’s not necessary, but I was glad she acknowledged how F’d up this was. And yes, this is another Chapter…. Titled “WTF”
@Mary – What a great comment, I’m so glad you are having this self realization and that you can be thankful for all your blessings. I know we all often loose sight of that, it’s so easy to do when your hair is falling out of your head. You hit the nail on the head “what they THINK is best for you” I know in this situation she totally lost track of what I needed, what “I” needed and what I don’t need it a cute short hair cut for wearing out on the town, no one, except for my fiancé ever sees my Bio hair. This is all new for her, so I don’t think she fully understood. I think she does now though.
Okay everyone.. all together — Breathe – Huge Sigh – Now Drink that Wine
Love & Hugs To ALL – You guys are so awesome!
XOXO
I am so sorry you are feeling so blue:( Big big hug and I hope you feel much happier very soon!! x Each day is a little closer to getting your length back…
Yes I think it can just be hard for people to understand unless they have their own experiences!
Maybe amino acids could help your bangs grow faster? Everyone is different but my hair was growing at about an inch a month with aminos — there are a couple of “pre-digested” aminos out there that don’t even hit your liver and kidneys so easier on the system. Not protein powders, but tablets or capsules.
Big Hug!!!
Damn, that sucks. Really, truly sucks. I’m so sorry for the stress it’s put you under!
That being said, I think that you and Mila still look AMAZING! Let’s face it, for most of us, a terrible wig day is still a thousand times better than a “good” crappy bio hair day. I haven’t moved into wig wearing yet – am still trying to take that first step. But just wanted you to know, even without using your hairline – you’re freaking rocking it. You still look incredible. I’m sure everyone will agree with me!!
For those of us with thinning hair, going to get a hair cut can be traumatic.
In an earlier post, I mentioned that I had an appointment today. I took your advice and I decided that I will take the topper back to where I bought it and have them trim it there since they are more experienced. It’s around a 3 hr. drive so I will do it in a few weeks. I decided that I would just get my hair trimmed today locally and the grey roots (what few roots there are) touched up. I was off today and scheduled an appointment very early when no one is at the salon. Right before I left the house I got a message saying that someone was going to be doing another clients hair at the same time as she does mine and would I mind this. Well, why would I want an early appointment if I wanted to sit there with other people. So I had to cancel. Then I just sat on the bed eating left over Halloween candy feeling kind of paralyzed and not knowing what to do. So… Even NOT getting a haircut is upsetting sometimes!
Anyway, it’s late afternoon now. I finally made another appointment and will take the topper to have in cut more to fit me in a few weeks. I live in a small town and there are few choices for hair stylists. Sometimes I feel that she does not like to do my hair since it’s not “fun” or very satisfying since it still looks crappy when she’s finished. Thanks for listening everyone. This I has been another lost day to my hair loss and frankly it’s really getting old. I have a lot to be grateful for but right now I just feel like complaining! Thanks again for being there for all of us.
Hi there!
I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to feel you finally have the control over the way you feel about your looks and then feel it’s not wat you wanted any more. xoxo
Sonia
Y: I see how sad you are over this and I’m truly upset for you. I know how much something like this crushes you while they grow out but please know that you really look great (I can’t really see a difference on the video but it is harder to tell I realize than in person). Take your Biotin. I have found this helps what hair I do have, grow much faster. Also, try to get some exercise. Hopefully that will take care of that pit at the bottom of your stomach a bit. And, if you want to meet up on FB for a virtual toast later, let me know! I’ll get an earlier start than you since I am on EST! (((HUGS))). YOU LOOK GORGEOUS any way you slice it!