When wearing wigs due to hair loss/ thinning hair, I think there are certain things that are best known ahead of time, which is that at the end of the day… the “Right” way is ultimately going to be the way that allows you to live most comfortably and enables you to adjust to the process with the least about of stumbling blocks and stress that can occur.
Down the line, when you feel comfortable in wearing hair, the hair world is your oyster, but I’m a believer in sticking to the basics when getting your first piece. There’s time to live your best mermaid life… later. In the present, you likely just want to feel like yourself, natural and comfortable in the hair you wear. When I sat down to film this video it was to answer a question I received about Tips & Suggestions when first starting out wearing wigs, however, I ended up getting rather tan on my roof top because I went on all kinds of tangents. This is actually a small clip for a long ramble, my suggestions made the video super long, so I think I have to break it down into smaller segments.
Much Love To All!
XOXO
~ Y
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Good information for those struggling what to do and how to go about the beginning process. You are very inspirational. Thank you!
Thank you !?
Love it! Thanks for this great info.
I think this os good advice on what to look for in your entry piece 🙂
Thank you Mia ! ?
I love the way the piece you are wearing looks. It is SO NATURAL at the front hairline part. I just want to know how you make that happen. Are the baby hairs around your temple and towards the side part yours?
Also, in all of my wig hunting, I have yet to find one that has not too much hair. They ALWAYS have too much hair. Follea included DEFINITELY. For financial reasons I have been wearing the same topper that I got from a woman in CA who makes wigs for movie stars (think Pirates of the Carribean) for the past 3 years. I’m trying to squeeze all I can from this piece before getting another. I know you are a big fan of Follea but …well…not sure about their toppers. And the issue of too much hair. Hmmm….
Anyway, thanks for that video. I’ve been following you for awhile just never commented. But I really appreciate you and all you are doing for all of us out here struggling with this issue. I also really love how open and comfortable and forthright you are about your hair loss in your private and public life, but also how compassionate you are for how anyone is dealing with it at whatever stage they are at. It is so refreshing! You are modeling self-acceptance and you are actively rejecting the over-identification with appearance while still being attentive to your femininity and dignity and sense of beauty. As I see it, this is a radical political act.
I am a jewelry designer so I have a public life (or at least did pre-Covid…and now do somewhat on video) and I am navigating that public/private transparency with my hair loss….not quite to where you are yet in terms of total open-ness about it. Still finding my way. Thing is, when I’m not actively in my role as ‘designer’ I am usually in the garden or in some other aspect of my country life, where often I just don’t care. So it can be a bit schizo.
Anyway, thank you again,
All the best
Hi Anni –
Thank you so much, your words mean a lot to me! Truly.
I have baby hairs (not much) at Partiline and while I’ve always pulled out through the templates and around ear tabs, but my temples are pretty thin and not much there at this time, but whatever is there I still work with, you can see it a bit in this video: https://www.facebook.com/womenshairlossproject/videos/217002522618608/
Also, I did a video in 2012 on showing this much more closely. Side note, the sunglasses while indoors thing is because in the beginning of showing myself on photos and videos, I didn’t feel comfortable. So I wore sunglasses for all videos and photos, and even indoors. I had so much more bio hair back then, but maybe this is helpful for you or someone else: https://www.womenshairlossproject.com/wigs/wheres-your-hair-wheres-the-wig/
While I do love Follea, I know it’s not the brand for everyone for various reasons. The amount of hair on the wigs works for me, and I typically have all my pieces cut which pulls weight off them. However the wig in my video for the post, was not cut, that wig came that length. Its the same version of the first piece I ever got, the one in the second video from 2012….and it’s not that wig in case someone is wondering if that particular wig lasted from 2012 till now.
I think it takes time to share, if we share…. And our comfort level with that will vary dramatically, and as you can see in 2012 I was wearing sunglasses indoors to feel like I was concealed, which is kinda funny… but what I needed to do, to make the end result work– Share with others that wearing hair was a real and viable option. I think that’s what’s important just making it work for us in our lives. Sharing or ending up being the over-sharer, in my view, is really what did allow me to accept hair wearing fully. I may not tell people odd things I do, like fish out the clusters in Honey Bunches of Oats, but “It’s a Wig,” rolls right out of my mouth in a variety of public settings. Go figure. LOL. Also, I think whatever is TODAY, is always just today and we change constantly with what we can learn to live with and adapt to. XOXO ~Y